Ten common questions about premature ejaculation
Social taboos have meant that premature ejaculation has long been an unresolvable problem. In fear of being shamed and embarrassed, many men are reluctant to talk about their experiences.
Here, we are going to focus on the ten most commonly asked questions about premature ejaculation. By addressing them, we hope to draw sufferers closer to the answers they were looking for.
1. What is premature ejaculation?
We consider premature ejaculation to be the act of a man ejaculating too quickly during sexual intercourse; it is an uncontrollable action. But how do we define “too quickly”? What exactly is “normal”? Is there a minimum or maximum duration? In theory, the only thing that really matters is between you and your partner; how you both feel about it and how you approach the problem. Premature ejaculation can occur even before any sexual intercourse takes place, which is what makes the problem so embarrassing and frustrating. Most of the time it helps to talk it out. We consider that a ‘normal’ man is more able to control the point of ejaculation and delay orgasm.
2. Are premature ejaculation, rapid ejaculation and pre-cum the same thing?
The first two terms actually can be considered the same thing. However, the last one, pre-cum, is not a condition and refers to pre-ejaculatory semen: a natural occurrence that comes from sexual stimulation and arousal and can appear at any point up until climax.
3. Does premature ejaculation affect many men?
More than one in three men is dealing with premature ejaculation problems. Research has been undertaken to suggest that between 36% and 38% men suffer with the condition, with some experiencing it occasionally and others quite frequently.
4. Is it a disease?
No, it certainly is not. We don’t know exactly why some men have problems with premature ejaculation and others not, but recent studies suggest that neuromediators in the brain play an important role in affecting the delay of ejaculation. Other factors such as stress, anxiety, masturbating too quickly and undertaking, fast, quick sex when young can all affect its severity. Specifically, masturbating too quickly in a hurry to reach climax has been shown to have consequences; through this, men do not learn to correctly recognise the feelings that precede orgasm and how to control them.
5. Can it be a hereditary problem?
Although this question has been widely assessed, there is no concrete research to support the fact that it may be hereditary.
6. Can circumcision help combat premature ejaculation?
For the longest time, we believed that circumcision could be the answer to premature ejaculation. The idea was based upon the fact that removal of the foreskin would decrease sensitivity in the delicate glands around the penis, curbing arousement and excitement. Unfortunately however, there is no clear evidence to prove this, and premature ejaculation seemed to continue to be as much of a problem for circumcised men as for uncircumcised men.
7. Can we curb premature ejaculation with drugs?
Yes, certain antidepressants have proved effective in delaying ejaculation. However, they can only be used as a temporary effect and can only help to treat the symptoms, not solve the problem entirely. Some men have found medicinal treatments ineffective in delaying ejaculation, whereas others have had success.
8. Are there general tips for delaying ejaculation?
Think about something else, masturbate before sex, do it twice in a row, control your breathing… Whilst some of these statements are completely false, others may work temporarily. For example, thinking about something else during sex may indeed put off ejaculation, but experts also warn that it serves to lessen control over ejaculatory reflexes, which can make a man last even less time! Let’s take another example: lasting longer the second time around. This can also be somewhat of a myth, because most men will find it difficult to achieve a second erection, especially if of a certain age or characteristic. And we mustn’t forget, men need a recovery period after orgasm!
9. Are there other solutions available besides drugs?
Yes. Mental exercises are effective in controlling premature ejaculation, as well as good old perseverance and getting your partner to get involved with you! Certain mental and physical exercises can yield good results. A good start is to visit a sexologist with your partner, but in the meantime there are books available that can help you to become familiar with the best mental and physical exercises.
10. Can my partner be affected?
Of course. It’s not just the sufferer that lives with the problem of premature ejaculation, but their partner too. In fact, a large amount of women suffer with the problem. For some couples, it isn’t so much of a problem, and they find other ways to explore sexual pleasure outside of penetration. Furthermore, it is important to remember that most people do not get together based on their sexual skills; often it doesn’t matter! There are many exercises, (such as the ones described on this e-Book) that can aid both sides of the couple to deal with premature ejaculation.
Our online eBook can help you to last longer and prevent premature ejaculation with recommended methods.